My Best Relationship Advice

I am no expert in relationships, I'm more of an expert on listening, observing, seeing. And "why relationships do, and don't work" is a constant conversation humans create. I get to listen to people unwind while they receive their massage, or while working out. My clients that take great care of themselves, typically have the healthiest, happiest relationships. Successful people share the secrets to success! Here is my free take-away! My best relationship advices, holistically viewing from the outside gazing in. Sharing what I have witnessed thru experiences. Although more failures than success, I have gathered golden nuggets of these events, and banked important ideas; while creating a list of my "standards of excellence" when choosing a complimentary partner to share, create memorable, and lasting experiences that are fulfilling, while two individuals remain...individual! Ultimately, you should admire, and respect your partner; and you should feel grounded and balanced, in a serious relationship. The feeling should be a sense of CALM. The butterflies "hocus pocus" is BULLSHIT, if you feel this, you might want to consider running opposite direction unless you want the: mr./ms. right NOW. Long-term relationships will change you forever, in fact, its typically the one factor in changing us most as humans: BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE. My best relationship advice comes down to this: 1-Love yourself, Their will always be situations where conflicts can arise, this is part of our lessons karmically. When you love yourself, and you have the ability to be a humbling vulnerably raw self, totally exposed with another, it doesn't come from a place of threat, or tearing apart, it comes from heart centered love, think tuff love a parent gives a child, "I am suggesting this because I LOVE YOU, and I can see you don't see the whole picture here, ...trust me!" 2- Show up for yourself, you do this in little ways daily...like pilates or receiving massages! 3- KNOW YOURSELF. Know your needs and wants honestly. Know you have to be able to:Communicate these! A balanced relationship is a healthy relationship. The trick is to keep checking in, and communicating, that way you can fix an issues or tensions that come up, before they throw the balance off. Are you getting your needs met? Are you meeting their needs? And knowing yourself well is a must before attempting such in a healthy way in union with another individual. So much so that, each individual is validated. 4- give "IT" first, in order to receive. Lead with this! These intimate relationships affect both individuals profoundly, both need to "WANT" to be present, mindful, contributing, and receiving! Both overall should put in the same amount of energy and support happily, knowing that life ebbs and flows. And take into consideration where we go under stress, and where we are when we are relaxed, and what our partner needs from us when they are stressed, and what do we need from our partner when we are stressed...just points of awareness to take into account, and it takes a lot of honesty and communication; first with our "self" and then with our partner. 5- Live your soul's purpose. Realize that as individuals, you each came to this planet to fulfill your soul's purpose. This is the point to a soulful fulfilling life. This is one of the keys to success. This is the key to universal FLOW. This is the key to happiness. You SHOULD have this going on for you before the relationship... you will continue this journey on your shared path in the relationship. This is the something unwavering, and often gets manipulated by people to throw us off track when with the wrong person. It's impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who can't be honest, authentic, and real. If they keep you on your life path, and support your dreams, and desires that are for your greatest good, this is the healthy choice. 6- Know your value. Each relationship is unique, and because we have soul lessons to gather to mature and evolve as individuals... its vital that you stay true to your core values, with this you'll create a balance that works thru time. 7- Be honest and ready. Be honest with what you want out of life, creating a safe space in your relationship to have honest conversations where nobody else gets to go is essential to keeping the magic alive! A good example for me is, I am a highly strong willed individual, because I had to grow up so fast, and this adds to my horsepower as to why I am a successful business woman because of these strong, relentless, stubborn, BOSSY decision making calls...leadership skills! This privately, however, doesn't validate me, in fact it can cause fiery anger issues in me. I know this about myself. I feel validated when not dominant, or called out to make all of the assertive decisions, in my personal relationships, as it allows me to step into my feminine elegance. I want partnership, and when it matters I voice my opinion. Knowing this, acknowledging this, acting on this, and communicating this while selectively choosing a partner is optimal . This refining allows my soul to shine brighter because I know myself, and I love myself enough to wait patiently for a spectacular fit, with such an important life choice. For me, an assertive man, who knows what he wants in our relationship, who feels empowered making calls, stepping into his masculinity, while he passionately pulls me into him as we kiss on the kitchen counter, is a mutually beneficial, validating, healthy, adult relationship. Small examples of validating balances we can share, and we both might need. WIN - WIN! 8- Time is your buddy! Ooooohhhhh...and TIME!!! How lovely not to push, or rush, or work for, but rather allow, be. Going back to that easy flow state, where consulting, and considering each other creates harmony in the relationship; and this becomes significant because it's also about having balance between your relationship, and the rest of your life. Hello, DUH!!! no brainer here. TIME...This space is healthy, making sure there's independence...remember this is why we fell in love with them! Allow the decency of time. In this part of human evolution, we expect everything epically fast, let us not expect love to be rushed, let it unveil slowly. The show will become more tantalizing as you allow what is, when it is. Last thing I will mention about time, is not to go to bed mad, and allow that time to pass. When you love someone, you resolve issues, because you realize the trauma and discomforts that could be caused, and you want to prevent failure before it occurs. The bravest person makes the first move. Aim to be the bigger person, so when your partner is in a place of stress, the situation is alleviated and seamless, and is done so without effort, as it's, "just the way we do things." Little rituals is the way things are done. This is balance. 9- The point is LOVE. Nourishing love.Intoxicating LOVE. Love has the power to transform us, so making a healthy choice when picking a partner that can grow with you, that can push you to grow, that you allow, and inspire to grow. This space is sacred-divine, mutually-beneficial, and a relationship of juicy authentic LOVE, with sexy yumminess! The happiest relationships come from a place of abundance, so much so, that how can I improve your life becomes EASY. Another expression of love! LOVE IS ACTION. 10- Shine bright...and shine the light on your love. These coupled right, express a breath-taking love affair with stylized pairings mindfully made, tailored for the individuals, we remain, while sharing epic adventure together. Please don't try to be the same person, or try to complete another, or look for someone to complete you. It is unhealthy, and unrealistic, it will never last. You are complete yourself. You are all you need. You came into the planet alone, chances are, you will exit alone. Instead allow your love to see their brilliance, illuminate their character whenever appropriate, this keeps a healthy flow of energy attracting more high vibrations. An example is: where you have ruff edges socially, I add grace and finesse. You can illuminate areas in my life where I shine less bright. Together we make a grand complete package! This is where the term, "power couples" comes into play! Here in lies the magnificent homeostasis key to success. In the end, it's not so much about let's become one... as much as let's mindfully focus same lifestyle goals together, because I care about you, and I think you are RAD! Let's create this untouchable space for anyone but us! Lets consider a relationship where you don't complete me, you COMPLIMENT me, and we both want to be on this path together. Let us masterfully and mindfully create a magical place where balance, awareness, and pure love not only exist, it thrives. It becomes our sanctuary, where we gather strength, courage, lessons, so that we may step into our own highest callings...which in turn makes this planet, and this lifetime a better place to reside. 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